Thursday, April 8, 2010

Fucking GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!

I am so freaking pissed!!

I am going to sue the shit out of mike T and pdoc they wont give me his files...I WANT them...I ll even sign a release saying I wont sue them even if they were negligent in his care if they will just give me the fucking files...Im just trying to piece together the last few months of his life...but if they are going to be fuckers then I will take their ass's to court (my sister will be an attorney in like 4 weeks so they can kiss my ass...they will be sorry cause if I have to take them to court to get those files and they were negligent, I will sue the mother fucking shit out of them for mal practice.

and to top it off the bitch ass receptionist was fucking rude, condescending and generally obnoxious ...she actually had the nerve to tell me if it was so important to me why did I wait 3 weeks to call...excuse me bitch cause my husband hung himself in our house and I have had a bit of trouble functioning...fucking douche bag...i want her fired!!!

seriously these ass holes are going to be sorry all I want is the files...no fucking money but if they are gonna be pricks then fuck Ill be one too....dam douche bags!!!

pardon my language but right now I feel entitled to some vulgarity's!!!

seriously pissed off

Tara

8 comments:

firefly said...

Tara,(hugs)) breath!!! Hmmm I understand why you want those records. If they knew anything that M was going to kill himself then they were obligated to report it. Wouldn't they have to tell his parents at that point? That probably would have already come out, so since it hasn't what good would reading his records do for you in the present? Can you honestly say it would do you good. I think it may cause you to have more guilt and make you think that you could have stopped him. Just think about what purpose getting Mike's records would serve. I know that if I died I wouldn't want an ex to have access to my files. I'm sure you wouldn't want Mike to get your files if heaven forbid the situation were reversed. I love you and want you to be able to move forward.

Zena said...

The things I am NOT his ex, I am his wife... we were not even legally seperated...i am/was his next of kin...I am responsible for all his bills for our home for his children. No his parents just this evening asked me for the doctors numbers...if Mike did say he was suicidal and they didnt do anything then they were negligent...and would have a malpractice suit on there hands...I dont want there money I just want the records so I can piece together his last months...I am not his ex wife...i cant stress that enough we were married...I was his wife!!!

I know you care but it really makes me upset when you say I wasnt his wife, I was/am...no papers were ever filed we were just living apart....who knows we might if he had been able to make it work if he had been able to get his alcoholism and anger and other issues under control...maybe just maybe we could have been a family again.

Im sorry Im not trying to be mean, but I was his wife....dont say I wasnt...please

tara

Angela E. Gambrel Lackey said...

I'm so sorry about how much pain you are going through.
I have to tell you something, though. I was a social worker for about seven years and mental health professionals in general are trained to keep their notes - the files - to a bare minimum. That is for many reasons, such as if the files are subpoenaed for court. It is meant to protect both the client from such things as potentially embarrassing information being made public and the mental health worker from possible lawsuits.
Therefore, most mental health professionals write very little in their notes; only enough to meet state and federal reporting requirements.
My point is that you are probably going to find very little about what you are looking for in his files. His files will most likely be two or three sentences, and I can almost guarantee you that his worker would not have noted on paper that he was suicidal.
I don't understand why they won't release them to you, unless he specifically signed something stating he did not want his files released to you even upon death. The patient is allowed to close their files to everyone, including next of kin, and that might be why won't release them. If he did sign such a form, no court will release them; they will honor his wishes. Is there any reason for you to think he might have specifically denied you access to his records?
But in any case, I don't think you will find much in his files. I always kept my notes to the bare minimum, and learned why when one of my clients was taken to court over neglect of her child. She had told me many things that could have destroyed her life if made public. I know it hurts, but I think I agree with firefly that you should move forward. The answers will not be there.
Again, I am so sorry for your pain.

lisalisa said...

my opinion is, that receptionist is a total d-bag for even questioning the delay in seeking your husbands records. Hello, you were grieving, duh!

I hope you get what you need. Sounds like they are just trying to cover their asses.

Zena said...

I dont know if he signed anything...they wont tell me...they were just plain rude and if thats how they treat the widow of a man who committed suicide then they should be put out of practice. I doubt he signed anything since he was going to therapy to prove to me that he was seeking help...and he told them he was suicidal and they didnt note it or do anything about it then they should be put out of practice for the sake of other future suffers... I know when I have been at the point of wanting to kill myself I was forced to sign contracts stating what I would do and what steps I would take to ensure my safety. This is a well known canter in our area and if they didnt ensure the proper steps to save my husband then they should be held accountable...but I really dont even care about that I just want the file. I dont care what it says...I just want some inkling as to what he was thinking and/or feeling in the months previous to his tragic death.

perhaps I am just angry and want someone to blame but I want answers and I will get them one way or the other my sister will be a lawyer in 4 weeks and has already found cases where files were opened and given to the next of kin. I dont want their money I just want my husbands records,I would also like to be treated with a certain amount of respect considering the circumstances...the receptionist was rude and said "you want the records go ahead and sue...you will lose!" she was a down right bitch and should be fucking fired!!!

firefly said...

Tara: I'm sorry that I made that mistake. You know I wouldn't do that to hurt you. I didn't know all the pieces. From what you had said before I didn't know. Sorry! No wonder you didn't want to talk with me yesterday. Maybe I shouldn't say anything. Sorry!

Zena said...

Sarah honey it had nothing to do with why I didnt want to talk...it really was the kids...You are always supportive of me, I know you would never say anything to hurt me...you dont have to keep your mouth shut...I just did not want nor do I want ANYONE to think that I was not his wife!!! cause I am/was and when i saw it in writing that I was his ex...it stung really bad, we may not have been living together due to circumstances but we were married...no action was taken by either of us...you dont need to be sorry just know that we were married and now i am a widow:(

Im not mad...I promise

Flushed said...

I Hope you get what you want and find what you are looking for from them Zena. And in a way that doesn't make things even more infuriating/energy-sucking/inconvenient. (Courts are so long & dragged out & $$)

wishing you well