Saturday, January 30, 2010

Shit-tas-tic

Thats how I feel...CRAPPY!!

I saw S yesterday, She is convinced my potassium is low...hence she is "concerned"...hence I am annoyed.

For multiple reasons...number 1 being I HAVE NOT PURGED IN 5 MONTHS!!!!

I think its B.S.

Her thinking too much coffee ( I have become addicted to starbucks...my car looks like a starbucks grave yard)...not enough water...not enough food...blahhhh side note did you know that something like 50% of a persons fluid intake comes from ACTUAL food...who knew??

Anyway my take on the situationeze this thinking is at best irrational). My body is thinking "who does chic think she is?? She has treated me like shit forever and now she wants me to behave...she is CRAZY!!!).

I think this is complete crap!!!!

I am miserable!!!

I feel horrendous every time I eat...like dizzy, nausea, chest pain, numbness in hands and feet...yes it does SUCK!

Of course it could be 2 things either I 1)am having panic attacks when i eat or 2) I really feel like this most of the time I just feel it most after I eat cause well i am wierd and like to blame it on food...hence trying to wiggle my way out of eating...i mean my madre isnt going to force me to eat allot if she thinks it makes me sick ( this plan would work for a while but i know she wont buy it for long)

okay so right now my right hand is completely numb and tingling and i didnt eat so i guess that blows that theory out of the water...hmmmm

This all sucks my friends... I see the E.D. doc in 4 weeks...and I do not want to go...and if I still feel like this on monday when K asks or tuesday when S asks asks I either must 1) lie or 2) tell the truth and have to risk the fact she may or must likely either call the doctor or make me call in front of her...either option blows...I am not happy...maybe i will go get some G2...( I will not drink the regular crap so dont even tell me its better)...this situation is really making me unhappy.

sorry to be a debbie downer but this all blows the nut

love me

and please stay hydrated...cause well I want you all to be well...

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

I am to OLD

Thats it...I mean not "to old" in age as Im to OLD to STILL have this Eating Disorder...It was okay at 15...it was okay at 20...it was okay at 25 and even at 29...but now I am ashamed...I am to OLD for this...I dont want it any more....What does that mean...I dont know..I mean clearly it means If I dont want to feel ashamed i need to get better...but holy shit heads i am freaking scared!!!Does my eating sucko?...yes sir!! Do I want to do this? NOPE!!! but... Do I know I need to? You bet ya!....hmmmmm whats a girl to do? oh yeah ...EAT!!!

Thats it...just wanted to "say" it.

Oh and I am not calling my eating disorder ED anymore...I mean really lets call a spade a spade...Ed is not real...it is not some other person forceing me to starve, or berate and belittle me. Its a disease. I have it so I must deal...or at least recover from it...I mean people who have any other disease dont name it...like its some kinda sick friend Do they?? Really I mean thats a question, cause i dont know maybe they do.

All I do know is whether I want to or not I have to face facts, although sometimes(okay allot) it FEELS like its not my choice, in reality it is...only I can decide to recover...it is ulimately up to me (unless one of you want to do it for me,I mean if you do feel free, just let me know cause that sure would alieve some of the pressure)


Will I chose Recovery today? Im not sure yet (at least Im being honest)...but really Its not up to "ED"...IT IS MY CHOICE,YES IT SUCKS...but at least I am not in denial...so thats a start right???

And just to let you know I will probably still write ED cause im lazy and its easier then writing out the whole 2 words :) So im not a hypocrite, just lazy.

Disclaimer: I am not in any way saying that by saying "ED" told me to...or whatever...is wrong or not right for any of you cause it works for you and gets you to your ultimate goal...which i am assuming is recovery then thats great!!!! Its just not right for me anymore, I think its holding me back, its preventing me from taking responsibility for my actions, its preventing me from reaching the "RECOVERED" state...and as scary as it may be...that really is my goal.

okay well i was just gonna write im to old for this but i guess i needed to write something...hmmmmm...its not to late for breakfast...its only 10:30...i dont know, we'll see, but it is my choice, at least i've finally realized that...better late then never i suppose.

Have a beautiful Recovery filled day!!

love, me

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Its all I can do...

God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change,

The courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.


MP DAY #3...starts....Ready...set... go....

oh day 1 and 2 were successful...at least by Recovery standards!

p.s. almost 5 months purge free!

Love and SERENITY to you all!

Tara

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

what I desire...

is the courage to fight this battle!

To live free of this prison!

To find value in myself!

To believe i deserve what the rest of the world does!

For all of us to find peace within ourselves!

Is health, To be happy ( and a little wealth would hurt either) :)

<3

Tara

Friday, January 15, 2010

SHAME!!!

seriously... i can not believe what i did to my tx team yesterday...yes i am a fool and stupid and fat and ugly and i tortured my team who are the mostwonderful people in the whole world because i am stupid and selfish and do things i am specificly instructed not to do!...its been 19 months almost 20 since i have commited this forbidden act and clearly there is a reason for it! the reason i have concluded is cause i m a dumb fuckwho think she knows best...oh you dont know whati am talking about...hmmmm....well i searched my house found the evil machine and stepped on it. it told me how worthless and pathetic and fat and lazy and disgusting i am...and I literally had a complete breakdown...full complete headon melt down. and i took it out on mypoor innocent tx team. after ....well durning my hysterical crying i emailed S. a really bad self loathing email where i said things along the lines ofI deserved all the shit he did to me and I am fat blank.... blank....blank...i wont actually say whati wrote cause itwas really bad. and many many times i repeated thati would be better off dead thati would never recover that they were wasting there time...i was sorry buti was quiting therapy in hopes thatthiswould soon kill me and I didnt want them to think they failed in saving me so this would be the end...yes i know i was being a complete and utter ASS! but i didnt stop there...in my complete hysteria...i think i was haveing a physcotic episode...like for reals i texted K. i was fumming mad...at myself buti took it out on her. letme justsayI love K...I really really do she is so awesome and giving and completely did not deserve what i did...buti did itandcanttake itback. so anyway itwentsomething along the lines of her decieving me...not telling me whata worthless fat piece of shit i am...how could she have done this to me and somewhere in my craziness i musthave said i would be better off dead...she called...i didnt answer...i wasto angry and was crying so hard i couldnt talk anyway...so then she texted me thati had to either go to the ER of the "other" hospital...aka jail and that she was calling S. I freaked out called S still crying but trying trying to hold it together explaining whati did...re: scale...how i freaked out...to put it mildly...thati was okay completely safe and i would take some meds lay on couch with my baby and watch spongebob...she called back immediatly...K had already called her..i answered the phone with a quick im fine i swear i will not hurt myself i am safe...she was calm as always) and assured me it was okay...thatitwas my ED trying to get to me that mymeds arentworkingtheway they should due to lack of nutrition and itwould be okay and thatyes i would be in to see her today because she cares for me and K cares for me and whatshe didwas out oflove and fear for me. we hung up and called K i apoligized over andover and over...she called back around 2 buti didnthear my phone...meds made mesleepy and i must have fallen asleep for like 5 min and missed the called...so i called back left another message saying how sorry i was that i was haveing a 2 yr old tantrum...itwould never happen again...to please forgive me...it would never happen again...and again i apoligized...she texted me around 7 asking ifi was okay...i didnt getthe message til 8:30 (clearly there is something wrong with my phone) i texted herback once again apoligizing...and now i mustgo see S. i am full ofshame and disgust for my actions yesterday i dont think i will be able to look her in the eye...i am so foolish and clearly retarded...i hate me....but most of all I hate ED for fucking with my already unstable brain to make me think my life should be over cause of a number...dammit I need to get a hold of K and say im sorry overthe phone like i need to hearher say its okay i know it wasnt "you" i am so full of shame...i deserve to have my toe nails pulled out!I am sorry to unload all this on you guys but this is me. clearly i am insane...butatleast i know enough when i have been completely irrational. if you readthis whole thing you deserve a prize cause seriously i am a nut this is why i am not writting as much cause im from the wacky shack. besides no one really reads my craziness since i went private anyway...at least they dont comment see look i am being paranoid...i need to stop get in shower and get ready to see S. lord be with me give me courage...and help me not to make a fool out of myself again today.

okay the end

with many regrets

Tara

Friday, January 8, 2010

INTERVENTION!!

SHIT !@$!@#!@#!

S, K and me madre this should be fun...

k update later...

good news kids start the bus today... no more driving back and forth THREE times a day!

whot whot

love, tara

Sunday, January 3, 2010

SO Yeah...thingscould be better...

Im stealing a moment away from from my sick baby cause really I need some reality checking and clearly my vision is skewed...I saw K 2xs last week cause I only was able to see S once due to the news years holiday..whine...anyway k is great..i love her really I do...our sessions are always very insightful and she really helps me ummm get my brain unstuck...our phone calls several times a week are "friend conversations" we talk about my kids...my crazy EX...her husband and son...and of course her DOG!..yes she always throws food into the conversation by the end to reasure me that above all her goal is to help me become ED free but let me tell you it really help to have an N who cares about ALL aspects of me and not just my food.

So anyway I have been purge free, pill free and exercise free for almost 4.5 months... so you all would be thinking Im doing great right?...wrong...I left Ks office with a mp (again) and an additional 2 boosts added..pissed off much...yes!...So I walked out...stood in hallway and was reading my "new" MP...and at the top of my paper I see these numbers...and I dont know what they mean...so I grab her.."whats this?" I say....she comes in close and whispers in my ear "anorexia"...FUCK!! I think are you kidding me...I have been rediagnosed with AN again...what the hell. so I walk out to car and fester...why is this bothering me so much..10 yrs ago I took "pride" in my AN diagnoses...now it pisses me off...why?? cause according to me I am not thin...I am fat!!! FAT PEOPLE CAN NOT HAVE AN!! Apparently I have distorted vision...duh...and losing xxx pounds in 5 weeks is not good they dont consider stress a reason for losing wieght...blahh

Now friday i have a appointment with S..K.. and my mom in S's office at 10:30...a intervention if you will...i thought once i stopped puking all would be well...NOT!!! there is Sooooo much more to ED then just not puking...

yes logically i know i have lost weight... ( clothes falling off would be first clue) but i feel HUGE HUGE HUGE...i feel like everyday i look in the mirror i am bigger...and i cant stand it....but there is the flip side yes i feel intrinsicly GROSS...but i also DO NOT want this ED. i need to be 100% completely healthy and ED free or ass wipe could use it against me to take my kids and ahhh that aint gonna happen! so options...feel horendously bad about myself...and eat despite it and ensure all body parts work properly (aka heart) or fake it continue to lose wieght... and risk things not being well with said organ and risk being stuck on cardiac unit...and then ofcourse risk the the threats of ass wipe taking away MY beautiful yet highly sickly children...duh...its a no brainer...but crappy crappy it freaking hard!

so heres what i need help with...the freaking thoughts...that are attacking my very survival....i know i have been downplaying the large role my ED has been playing in my lack of intake but you know what its time quit my bullshit...get my ass on track and eat some freaking breakfast ( just to point out... I AM EATING 3 times a day just clearly NOT enough) the meal are to small and I am skipping complete food groups but I AM eating..so really this shouldnt be to hard right??

bad thoughts that are bombarding me since I was officially told my weight loss has ow gone to far.."MUST BE LOWER AT EVERY WIEGH IN" ( theres one tomorrow) and YES I am freaking...but I need to realize that even if I follow my complete MP (even with the 2 boosts) it is NOT possiable to even gain a ounce...reality chheck...I am on a mp to keep me alive NOT make me fat...get it TARA GET IT!!! wake up smell the boost and for god sakes just freaking DRINK IT!!!!

ps funny story...okay no time to write it now cause babys freaking out...just now its funny..I tell you later it involves sister...her hair...and yeah FIRE!...are you on the edge of your seats yet...

Love you all and HAPPY HEALTHY NEW YEAR!!!

Tara