Seriously, as we sat outside the roller rink today, they were eating their icecream (well Zack frozen yogurt cause hes still afraid of sugar)
This is what he said:
" Do you see all these kids with thier daddys, i want one, when are you going to get married again so I can have a daddy?'
Me:"Oh...If I ever get married again, he wont be your daddy he'll be your step father but you could call him your daddy if you want to"
Alyssa pipes in " I will always hate him"
Zack: "why? dont you want a daddy to do "daddy" things with you? I want a new daddy! Mommy who can you marry now?"
Me: "it would nt be for a long time Zack, but if you wanted to call him dad you could but you wouldnt have to.
Alyssa: "I will always hate him."
Zack: " I will call him dad, I want one, one that loves me and will never leave."
Isaiah : "my daddy took me took me to chuck e cheese yesterday."
Alyssa : "no, hes dead, I dont want a new daddy!"
Me: "Alyssa, He wouldnt have to be your "new" daddy, but he would have to love you like a father loves his daughter, he would always be therefore you, you would never want that?"
Alyssa: " I dont know, he could do things with me but I wont like him."
Zack: " well if he loves me then I will love him, and he will be my daddy!"
Me: "its a long way into the future, lets just worry about US being a family, when and if there comes a time to worry about having another man in our home we will, right now lets just be okay with being us."
Zack: "okay but can you look for a daddy for us"
Me: not right now...Im not ready"
Zack: "when you are, can you tell me, so I can look"
Me: "I will let you know...
Alyssa: " I will hate him, but he can be my friend"
Me: "okay, so when we are ready we will talk again"
Isaiah: " I loved my daddy, but he died"
Me : " I know but hes watching over us"
Zack: " okay just tell me okay"
Me: "okay I will...."
Did I do it right? what was i supposed to say? He wants a daddy, Im thinking "BIG BROTHER" right now...God , Im so sad...
My babies...they are so lost...
what would have said?