I need to talk to my dad
I m scared
I dont know how to do it
its eating me and M apart that he grabbed her butt and tried to kiss her and I dont know how to do it.
I m scared
really fucking scared
sick to my stomach scared
why cant I just open my mouth and use my voice??
its really pissing M off! He wants to be the one to say something, he says its his daughter and it s eating him alive inside he cant sleep at night cause he s afraid that A wont know if something happened to her or not that she wont know what is a good touch and what is a bad touch...That she will suffer the same fate as I, that she she too will be damaged goods.
this is aweful
bloody fucking aweful
I need some balls anyone want to lend me theirs??
I dont know what to do or how to do it..I am thinking of emailing him..of being gentle and kind and just saying the following:
I dont know how to go about saying this because I am sure you didnt mean anything by it but we are teaching our daughter that no one is allowed to touch her in her private areas and A mentioned that that she wanted to know why grandpa did. She said that you grabbed her butt and that it made her feel uncomfortable. Now I am sure you had purely innocent intentions but its really not an appropriate way to touch her. She is young and impressionable and we dont want her to think that its okay for anyone to touch her except mommy or daddy and only when we are washing her.
I dont want you to think that I am angry because I am nothing of the sort but A was made unfortable and I know that is something that none of us want. So just try to be more aware of where you touch her, a hug and a kiss on the cheek is more then acceptable and A would know that is a "good" touch.
what do you guys think?? am I being to easy ?? should I be more firm?? I am really afraid of hurting his feelings and him not wanting to speak with me again, ofcousre A is way more important then any relationship I could or would ever have with him but there is this part of me that still feels like a child in his presence... am i taking the cowards way out?
I am i know it
but I dont know what else to do
i just cant confront him in person I will shrivel up and die for that I am sure