Monday, November 7, 2011

Maslow's theory and the idiot girl who knows nothing.

Friday Nov. 4th was a pretty horriable day.  Last class of the day and we were discussing Maslow's theory. The pyrimid of the hierarchy of human needs, the bottom tier being basic needs such as oxygen, food, water ect. The top tier being self actualization. Pretty much feeling complete in life, socially, finacially, emotionaly...you feel like you will continue to evolve, but are content in your life, you have high self esteem, you are not worried about things like what people will think of your oppinions, you are comfortable. YOU ARE HAPPY WITH LIFE.

Well this twit of a girl ( who happens to know about mike and his suicide) took it apon herself to state that she read a "study" that people who have reached the self actualization stage feel that they have completed everything there is in life so they KILL THEMSELVES.  Which if she even had bothered to read the lecture she would have seen that in that stage we still CONTINUE to evolve.  Well as you can imagine I became very upset and tried to state my case that suicide is something that occurs when someone who has a mental illness reaches thier breaking point, you never hear of someone killing themselves because they are just so dam happy right? Yes, this girl was a fuck wit and I was highly upset by her "theory" but even more upset that she refused to listen to any other statements regaurding her not only ignorant but highly WRONG statements. I all of the sudden burst into tears, and ran from the room.  I couldnt stop crying.  I was unbelieveably triggered and nearly had a panic attack in the bathroom, I cried for a full on 30 mins at school, thankfully I had some wonderful classmates who helped me through a very difficult time.  Unfortunately I have been having flashbacks and panic attacks all weekend, I can not stop the thoughts, Im not sure why this triggered such a reaction, I have talked about Mikes suicide at lenth and am able to talk about it and able to educate others on mental illness but this, this statement took away everything that I believe to be true, people suicide because they seen life has nothing to offer, that thier pain will never end and they can not see a way out, NOT because the were so freaking happy.

I think maybe part of it was that she was giving such misinformation, so skewed from the truth I couldnt handle hearing one more word and add that to the fact that she KNEW my story and how sick Mike was and still proceded to carry on with this nonsense, with no regaurd for my feelings and no problem argueing with me just to make herself seem more knowledgable. It was a combination of rage and grief swirled into one horriable moment,  and I felt completely out of control.  I hate that this girl had so much power over me and that her false statements impacted me so much but they did and they still are.

I shook while driving to school this morning with the thought of having to face this girl who knew how much she was hurting me and continued to do so, I want my head to stop spinning, I want the rumination to stop, I have been trying to ground myself all weekend but havent done so well, my one and only consoulation is that she is now hated by the entire class as now EVERYONE knows about mike, but also what a complete ass she is.

so thats the story of Maslow and the idiot girl

The End

5 comments:

Angela E. Gambrel said...

God, please save us from dumb twits who think they know everything!!!

I studied Maslow's theory at length (my first degree is in psychology) and trust me, Tara, no one kills himself because he is happy. The whole point of Maslow's theory - which obviously flew right over her stupid little head - is to show that humans have a hierarchy of needs that have to be met before we can evolve and grow and enjoy such things as books, plays, music, etc. The whole point is first man has to survive before he can create and grow. People kill themselves for a number of reasons, including that the world and his or her mental illness gets to be too much for them. People *do not* kill themselves because they are happy. For one thing, you never complete everything in life; there is always something new to learn. And if you are happy and growing and engaging in learning, you are not going to kill yourself.

I sometimes wonder how these twits even get into college....

Just know that she is wrong wrong wrong!!!! And stupid. And arrogant to the extreme. And she will not be growing or evolving since she obviously thinks she knows it all already. The thought that she might be a nurse with her total lack of empathy scares me.

God, if I could see her, I might slap her...

Don't let such an idiot get to you. Mike had a mental illness and for some reason, he could not deal with it anymore and he chose the only way that felt right to him at the moment. Mental illnesses kill people. Mental illnesses are hard for people to struggle with.

{{{Hugs}}}
Angela

Zena said...

Love love you!!! Exactly!!! I knew you would get it...I'm not crazy she was a total ass...I too feel bad for her patients...stupid igorant girl...ps she's failing...hopefully soon she will be gone she's maintaing a 76 and an 80 is mandated...and she's worse in other courses...stupid girl!!

firefly said...

Hope today went better! I'm glad you had such supportive friends to be there for you. I agree with you and Angela. Is this a basic psych course? Hope she doesn't go farther in the field. Love ya! Stay grounded! Sarah

Telstaar said...

Oh Tara! I'm sooooo sorry that you had to experience that. You are right, people don't commit suicide because they're happy but because they don't see a way out of the horrible situation that they are in.

I'm amazed that you were able to stand up for those people who have committed suicide and those people in your class that have felt suicidal (and I assure you that you would not have been the only one) and told that girlt hat she was wrong. I am sorry though that it took such a toll on you.

please keep trying to take gentle care of yourself and maybe just stay away from that girl as much as possible.

*gentle hugs with prayers*

Anonymous said...

You're just as thick as she is; that's not what 'self-actualization' means.